In the last few days I have received news about people I have known, even only briefly in life, passing away. I have reflected on the emotions that have come up for me around grief.
Of course the first natural human response to death is sadness. Sadness that you won't meet again in this lifetime, in this form. I work with spirits, I know there is more beyond this plane. But this sadness washes over me. Also a feeling of surprise like I'm so busy living life I nearly forget it won't last forever. This is grief. Grief is sadness of a loss of anything, not just people. There is an innate knowing that this loss has meaning and there is a need to process this in the human form. Once I start processing these emotions naturally, then the memories come. I see their face in my minds eye and i remember how we met. I remember how their energy felt. I remember our interactions and how I felt. How our energy interacted with each other.
I like to share these memories with others. The response here sometimes interrupts this grieving process for me. People often feel the need to remind us that the souls experience is not over. But we all know this, and this knowing needs to come from ourselves, because this is the natural process.
Psychologists state there are 5 stages of grief. But for people on the spiritual path these stages feel different.
The first stage is usually denial and isolation. But for me it is surprise and solitude. I feel the need to go inwards and feel that initial shock of the news. This stage passes quickly for me as i move into the next stage.
Typically, this is anger, but for me it is love. I feel genuine love for the person I knew. I remember them and the time we spent together. I remember the words they said to me and the feelings those words triggered.
The next stage is bargaining. And in a way, I still do this. I do wonder how they passed. I wonder if this could have changed in some way. If the passing was through suicide, there is a part of me that takes responsibility, wishing I could have been in their life more to try and change their mind. Or if I could have done something differently to make the connection more meaningful. Did I try enough in this life with them? How did they pass? Could this passing been avoided in anyway?
The next stage is depression but for me it is sadness and also overwhelm of emotions. I always cry. I reflect on these tears and wonder if I'm feeling the "right" emotion. Did I know them enough to be sad enough to cry? Do i have the right to cry or feel this sadness?
When I think about crying, I feel it generally comes from overwhelm, an overwhelm of emotions. And crying is the release. So I think it is always OK to cry.
I generally reach out to others at this stage and share these feelings and memories, hoping to get permission to feel the way I do.
The last stage is acceptance or for me it is celebration. I know from working with spirits that they are happy and complete. But the spirits know these humanly emotions of grief better than anyone. They are the ones that have lost their life.
When you pass over, everything from your human life form is processed and you gain a deeper understanding of the true meaning of life.
And this is where it goes a little bit wrong...
We cannot bypass these natural emotions. They are difficult for so many people. Especially when you are working so hard to keep your vibe high right?! You don't want to get bogged down with heavy emotions. But it's part of the process. So when someone reaches out to you in any of these stages of grief, let them process it. Let them be the one to tell you that they know their loved ones are happy now. Let them come to the realization that sometimes there may be more for them to do on "the other side". Just sit with them in their grief. Share your grief. We don't need to rush into the spiritual celebrations of the soul. The soul will always be fine. But the human self is important. What they did in life and the impact on your life IS important.
We as spiritual beings are missing out on our human experience. We need to celebrate the LIFE not the spirit.
The soul is eternal. But the LIFE has meaning and purpose. Don't forget that.
The problem is we don't know how to respond to people when we are in one stage and they are in another.
Keep this is mind; when someone reaches out to you and tells you something sad, or expresses their sadness, don't over think it.
You don't need to send a super long message full of spiritual insight. You can just say "I get it, I hear you." "I feel your sadness". "I feel your grief". This person may have reached out to you because they want to know if you think it's OK for them to feel the way they do. So give them that permission. You can say "it's OK to feel the way you do and I'm hear for you".
They may reached out to share those memories if you're the only person in their life that may have shared those same memories too. In that case you could say I remember that too and I felt x,y, or z.
When someone has lost someone from suicide, you could respond with "I wish it were different too."
When someone loses a baby or a child, don't pretend you could even guess how they feel. Just be there for them. Tell them you are there for them and just let them share. And then when they naturally move to the next stage of acceptance and celebration, then you can share your insightful thoughts around the afterlife and any excitement or feelings around what is to come next for their loved ones in the next life.
Typical stages of grief
1. Denial and isolation
Spiritual stages of grief
1. Surprise and isolation
4. Sadness/ overwhelm of emotions
There is no time frame on each of these stages. Everyone's experience will be unique to them. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. These are naturally stages we process when we feel supported and loved.
If you are struggling with any of these stages, please reach out to your loved ones, or a professional that can hold space for you and guide you through this process.
And as always, you are welcome to reach out to me.
Why is it important to cleanse, protect and ground our energy everyday?
We encounter so much energy throughout our day, especially for an empath, it is important to clear away any energies that do not belong to you.
Do you ever feel like you don't even know how you feel? Or you don't know why you are feeling the way you do? It's probably because they are not even your feelings.
I remember when I first began tapping into my empathic abilities after I had my son, as well as giving up dairy. I feel like going through this transformation without this negative blocker such as dairy (another blog on that soon) I was able to turn this ability on. Although I didn't actually know it. All of a sudden I felt like I was going crazy! I was having all of these emotions and I couldn't explain why I felt the way I did. I remember one incident in particular I was having dinner with my now ex's family. And out of now where I just felt all of this rage! I had to run out of the house and go home before I went mental! I definitely looked like a crazy person. At this time I was getting some holistic counselling, and I spoke to her about these incidents. She told me she believed I was an empath which made so much sense to me! I had heard about empaths but never fully related until this time in my life.
I then started learning about what to do with these new found abilities, so I went and seen a psychic at a local expo. She had a Tibetan singing bowl and tried clearing the energy before she did my reading. She was having a hard time doing this and told me that I had brought everyone else's energy from the expo in with me. No wonder I felt crazy! Imagine carrying about a hundred people's energy around with you all day. In this reading she told me how important it was to clear and protect my energy. She also was the first to tell me I had fairy blood and also spoke about grounding now that I am an earthling in this life.
So cleanse yo self.
Ways that you can do this are; meditation. I share different guided meditations on my Facebook page so be sure to follow me!
Balance your chakras
Aura spray made with essential oils such as; lemongrass, purify, frankincense, rosemary, witch hazel, lavender, or sage.
Moon bathing under the full moon with your crystals
Get amongst the wind! The wind is incredibly cleansing. I used to find windy days really annoying. But now I know on these days I need to just stand in the wind and let all of my annoyances go.
Burn sage and cleanse your energy with the smoke.
Have a shower and envision the water washing away any negative energies that do not serve you.
Now that you are cleansed, you need to learn to protect your energy so that no one can mess with your beautiful energetic field.
When you wake up in the morning imagine a bubble around your aura. You can imagine whatever colour you are drawn to, generally I am drawn to pink which only allows love to penetrate my bubble.
Crystals are the best for protecting your energy. My number one go to is amethyst for empaths. I like wearing my crystals as a necklace or earrings. If you don't vibe with amethyst, then clear quartz, or onyx is great!
Next step is to ground your energy.
As a incarnated fairy I have always found this hardest step.
There are lots of grounding meditations out there on Spotify or Youtube. Ideally you want to meditate twice a day. At the start of the day you ground yourself and at the end of the day to clear your energy.
The Earth is the best way to ground yourself. Every day taking time to stand on the grass or the dirt and envision tree roots coming out from your root chakra through to your feet and into the earth, grounding your energy with the earths energy. Being grounded enables us to function more effectively as humans, especially living in the matrix or in the 3D. As an incarnated fairy I am very connected to the air energy. I am creative and am often described at very free-flowing. I am always just flying around in life and seeing where the wind will take me. As a creative, living in this energy works great. But to run a business as an example, I've needed to work our how to ground my ideas to bring them into reality.
Some days it is harder than others but ways to get yourself grounded are, spending time in nature, ideally barefoot. Having a bath with Epsom salts and really relaxing yourself. Using grounding earthy oils such as vetiver or cedarwood on the bottoms of your feet. Taking time out to rest is very important, feeling into that kapha energy and reflecting rather than creating. Also eating root vegetables helps (yes potato *drools*).
Doing these three things will enable flow into this life time for you. Grounding, protecting and cleansing your energy is imperative to your mental and spiritual wellness as an empath or lightworker. Soon you won't know how you functioned without doing this!
The Most Transformational Healing experience...
This story starts September 2019, I had been doing my thing with Pixie Steps for about 10 months, doing intuitive readings for people online and in person in my local area in Gippsland. I received a booking from my Facebook page for a face to face reading. I met Amie a couple of days later and gave her a reading to help with a few blockages she was experiencing in her life, and to gain clarity on her own intuitive business. Amie loved her reading, and her and I hit it off with so many ideas for collaboration. We met up the next week and Amie asked me for a healing. My response was that I didn't offer healings, but it was something I wanted to open myself up to. I know I had been a healer in almost all my past lives, so I opened myself up to this possibility of offering healings. I asked the universe, what type of healings do I need to do?
In a matter of days, I was listening to my favourite podcast 'The Highest Self' Podcast with Sahara Rose. She was interviewing a Quantum Healing Hypnosis Practitioner and I heard all about this incredible healing method created by Dolores Cannon. In this healing, the client goes into a deep trance using a method of hypnosis. The client goes into a past life regression (usually) and receives healing from reliving this experience. As well as giving them incredible insight into the reasons why a person may have fears around particular things, and gives them a deeper understanding about themselves and the lessons they have learnt and the lessons they still need to learn in life. The practitioner then contacts the clients Subconscious or their higher self. The client can then ask any questions they want to gain further understanding and healing.
The Subconscious can also heal any physical issues the client may be experiencing. There are no limits on the possibilities using this type of healing! I felt this need, I HAVE to do this healing! It was so aligned to the work I was already doing with people. And the power of this healing blew me away! So I jumped online to work out what I would need to do to get this qualification. I quickly discovered The Quantum Healing website and found they offered level 1 online. I smashed through this course in a matter of weeks and then started doing my practice hypnosis sessions on my friends and family.
It was October that I received the email inviting me to do my level 2 in Egypt. Once I read this I remembered a year prior, receiving a reading from a friend to look out for something to do with Egypt to come into my life. I knew I had to go. It was not a choice for me to make, I felt in every fibre of my being that this was already planned out for me, I HAD to go! So I started manifesting it. I asked the universe to take me to Egypt, easily and effortlessly. I put images on my vision board that I was going to Egypt to complete my level two in QHHT, in December.
All my time went into doing my sessions, and I kept telling people about my plan. I journaled about going to Egypt and kept putting my trust in the universe to guide me. But there was still a lot of internal fear; travelling alone, going to Egypt where online it appeared to not be very safe. The cost of such a trip. I wondered would it be worth it? Because of these fears I did not take any action. I didn't book in for the course or even investigate how much it would cost to fly there.
A few weeks go by and still no action except for my manifestation practices, and quietening the fears I had. I was telling a story to myself that I was too busy, all of my time was completed booked up. I was worried I wasn't ready for such a trip. And then suddenly, I wake up to my appointments that had been scheduled cancelled and suddenly I had a free day. So what do I do with my time?..
I decide to go to yoga (procrastinate and still fearful of making it a reality). But the universe had other plans for me. I couldn't get a car park anywhere near the yoga studio. I started stressing out that I was going to be late for the class. And then a free car park becomes available, right out the front of a travel agency. It registers with me straight away and I thank the universe for directing me to where I needed to go. So I went in there and booked it in! And just like that, I manifested going to Egypt, easily and effortlessly. The travel agent made the whole process, that was completely overwhelming to me, ridiculously easy.
That day I had two visions. One I had a few months before this, meeting a man from my Lemurian/ Atlantis past life and the healing that I would receive from him, so I knew I would meet him in Egypt. The next was a beautiful new friend connected to the fairies.
Egypt changed me in more ways than I could have ever envisioned. But I am so grateful for following my intuition and trusting the divinity of the universe.
You may not know this but this world we live in right now is interdimensional. We used to think that we lived in a third dimensional world, but it has come to light that we can be so much more evolved than this. Our souls can reincarnate from this planet as well as others, on other dimensions. I know my head was spinning too when I first awakened to these thoughts. But I know this to be true because I am an incarnated fairy and now I am here on this Earth.
The third dimensional world or living in 3D is what I call the matrix. This movie was created by people that had awoken to this reality and this was their way of sharing this with the world. 3D is a reality that we create individually and collectively.
We are moving to the 5th dimension through transmuting love. The 3D world is a world built on material possessions and is completely fear based, a world where we feel fatigued and wan to dissociate from. We do not trust each other. It is a game of power and control, where we are separate from God or source and where we fear our inevitable deaths. This world is one of scarcity, where life is a competition, where there are winners or losers. There is inequalities between women and men and completely imbalanced of the feminine and masculine. We can access rare moments of 4D or 5D through meditation or orgasm. But mostly we live in the past or the future, never in the present moment. We are disconnected to our true desires, we don't love ourselves. Our vibration is low, we don't believe in our divinity. We are controlled by our egos. We cannot remember our past lives, our parts of ourselves. We cannot connect to our higher self. We try to find happiness outside of ourselves, following everyone else we enslave ourselves. The 3D world is one of duality, there is good and bad and these are our only choices. But if we always choose love we find our way to enlightenment.
4D is the magical dream world, the Astral plane. This world can still be ego based with duality. In the dream state we can connect to the spiritual realm. Drugs can open up this dimension for some, sweat lodges, shamanic practices and ways of this nature can open the door to the fourth dimension and helps us to move towards 5D. When we are in 4D we can tap into the collective energy. It is still light and dark, there are still fears in existence. There is an energetic law that we must follow, in awakenment and ascension.
The Fifth Dimension is when we move beyond linear time. In this dimension different time lines co exist. There is no pain, no fear, just unconditional love. Transformation of the higher self becomes complete with your physical body. You know longer question the universe. All our actions are based on love. We feel oneness. We remember who we truly are, that we ae limitless. We are our full authentic selves because there is no room to be anything else. We know our lives are eternal, we are in complete balance and harmony. Once we reach 5D we cannot go back to the lower vibrations. The new Earth is moving to 5D. In doing our inner work this is helping humanity reach this plane.
How does the fairy realm fit into this?